Fear of failure or is it failure because of fear?

I feel like my whole life has led to this moment in time. It’s well documented I was a sensitive and incredibly shy kid. I see those genes at work in my kids (for better or worse). It reaffirms exactly what I believe; I came into the world that way. I also believe we come into the world full of raw potential… emphasis on RAW. It’s up our parents to start shaping, start developing, and start the process of our children becoming the best version of whoever they’re going to be. Then, at least for me, it’s when you leave home that you really start to take the reins of your life.

I left home in 2002 for school at Cal Poly - SLO. Everything and anything I would say was “ME” I left at home. My family, my friends, my identity as an athlete… everything. That was HARD. But man, those 4 years were some of the best years of my life.

That was part 1 into the introduction that with hardship, pain, and challenge comes the good stuff. The breakthroughs, the epiphany’s, and ultimately the CONFIDENCE. The confidence to go carve out your piece of this short and fleeting life.

So now, here I am at 40 years old running my own business. Doing things I’d never ever imagined. I’m knocking on strangers’ doors, filming videos of JUST me talking to the camera, and asking friends and family for business. And if I’m being honest, that shy kid, is still in there. He’s squirming, cringing, crying and all around just looking for the exit door…especially right before a stranger opens the door aggressively (JUST RUN!). That kid isn’t ME anymore. That kid hasn’t earned what I have, which is the confidence to make my 2024 about being FEARLESS. I’m not resigned to playing this life conservatively and playing the “what if” game.

One thing that has been consistent my entire life is my drive to never, ever give up. I won’t fail because I didn’t try. So as my business continues to grow year over year, I know what got me ‘here’ won’t get me ‘there’. I am going to do something that makes the shy kid incredibly uneasy. I’m going to ask for your help.

If you see a post of mine on social media, would you like, comment, and share it?

If you have friends who need real estate advice, would you offer to connect me with them?

If you know someone who’s in a related field (estate attorneys, insurance brokers, mortgage brokers, small business owners, etc.), would you mind reaching out to see if I can help them grow?

If you’ve come this far I know you really care. Just know I’m incredibly grateful to know you.

My last request, would you let me help you too?? Pretty please, nothing makes me happier than helping people I love!

So I’m here, vulnerably and humbly asking for your help. And I still may fail, but it won’t because of my fear. Happy Spring, everyone!